Conversation Enemies on the First Date

If there are tips on what to talk on a first date, there are also some wait-slow-down topics not to include on the list. It's good to share, but keep in mind that you are not talking to your Mom or your bestfriend who knows everything about what you're trying to say. If you believe that first impressions somehow last, this is the right time to make one.

Marriage or Divorce - it's too early to talk about how you two are going into these things, or whatever are your views about them. Don't be too desperate or negative in the first meeting. Just let each other discover more while looking forward to more dates in the future. 

Past relationships - you know, past is past and it is bound to forgetting. I see no sense in bringing up about your ex-lovers whether you had a good relationship or not. Take note that we all hate comparing ourselves to another person. 

Problems in the family - we do not want introducing ourselves like we came from a chaotic family (even it may be really is) before a special someone becomes a part of our own lives. Hesitation can somehow develop in here brought about by pressure fixing those problems first before both of you can enjoy the relationship together.

Work – almost all of us can admit that we are not happy on the job we're in. A freaking boss, a gossiper officemate, an insufficient salary, or whatever reasons may be, get control and do not burst out. Your date does not want a hot-headed and a complaining partner in the long run.

Insecurities - if it's about yourself, keep it. If it's about dating, relationships, or if true love exists or not, do the same thing. Remember, why are you dating in the first place? Perhaps you can change your perceptions now. Appreciate your date’s company.  

Your friends - most especially their secrets. First, you do not have the right to share them to someone you barely know. Second, you have the right to remain silent. And I'm sure your date will feel a little intimidated figuring out why are you telling others' life when the interest must be on both of you. Plus, your friends also trust you that enough, do not break it no matter how too personal or shameful the issues are.

Money - a saying goes like this, "When hunger knocks at your door, love goes out of your window." If this is one of your concerns on the first date, slow down. How much is not the question to be asked first because love is not measured through it.

Illnesses - perhaps your allergies can be brought up especially when ordering food for dinner, but going over through your medical record or history, it would not be ideal on the first date. If you have a serious illness, avoid thinking that you would not be accepted. You want to enjoy the night and not to add more self-pity, that's it. 

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How to Impress Her on your First Date

How to Impress Her on your First Date

After all the time you invested on chatting together, she now agreed to meet-up. Perhaps a dinner or a movie night would be great. However, it is natural that you feel somehow pressured, but just think positive that everything will go well. This is it, man! Do not let her down with her expectations on you. Follow these tips for a date she will always be looking forward again.

Put perfume

This does not mean like you were soaked in it or spilled half of it on your suit. Put an ample amount especially on pressure points and you’re good to go. Make sure that the moment you get close to her, you can satisfy her sense of smell. That’s a good reason to make her imagine more kissing and cuddling in the future.

Don’t be late

Okay, it is understandable if you’re from office and went straight rushing to the meeting place. Though there are other concerns or casualties happened about work or while on the way, show her that she is a priority and not like just an option to be included in your schedule.

Don’t be too formal

(Especially when it comes to clothes and conversation) Arriving on your date night wearing coat and tie is reasonable enough when you came from work or a business trip. But being too formal sometimes intimidates, or worse, bores women. It’s a nice thing that she enjoys your company while not having to worry with scripted lines. Talk casual.

Walk/take her home

An act of a gentleman which every woman likes. The time and attention a man gives show that she is special and valuable.However, if she refuses, you can still offer to accompany her to the bus stop or terminal. It would be always courteous to ask her. 

What Women Like in Guys

Believe it or not, women do not fully rely on the body and face, that’s good news! They have a particular standard list on mind that they always check whenever they meet a guy. I’m sure you will not have a hard time catching up girls as these traits come out naturally from you. Let us examine what are those.

Adventurous – the world is big. There are a lot of places to go and things to experience. Women are regarded as gentle and discreet, but others have the same level of being adventurous like guys. It is an influence anyway and they’ll soon find doing everything enjoyable with you. Spending time with each other means a lot of good time together.

Smart – women find it so appealing when a guy shows intellect. It is not all about the high grades in class, but more on simple decision making. It shows that you know what you’re doing in every area of your life, like planning a long-term relationship with someone soon.

Straightforward – hearing you say “I like you” means a lot to a woman, so much more the phrase “I love you”? She knows how you earned up some courage to confess your feelings. A man may not have all the good words to talk about love, but being direct to the point is like being strong to your words. Women like it when guys tell them what’s running inside their minds.

Passionate – it is very common that guys have so many hobbies, but very rare are those passionate about something. Women have this kind of thinking: “He likes mathematics, must be an engineer. He likes drawing, must be an architect. He likes basketball, must be an mvp player. He likes music, must be a musician. He likes to cook, must be a chef. He loves me, must be my partner for the rest of my life.” You know, women go for the extremes.

Honest – it’s a woman’s first desire from men. They don’t like headaches from lying and cheating. It is kind of a relief as well. If you really are serious, just be honest about your feelings.  You’ll be surprised how she will get attached into you deeply.

Funny – or should I say witty and someone with a sense of humor. It is not about how many jokes you crack during office hours or how good you are at making faces. It’s more on the casual cheesy pick-up lines because it is not that easy to think of something spontaneously. Moreover, it is never hard to get along with women as long as you are not oozing with too much confidence which may turn them off easily in the first place. Let them admire you naturally. 

How to Catch a Cheater

How to Catch a Cheater

In the beginning of dating someone, trust is one of the biggest factors to be considered. Being open to your partner determines how deep your closeness is. Before you enter into a relationship, investigate one’s background especially what happened to his/her past relationships.  Remember, it’s better to hear the bitter truth rather than the sweetest lie.  Guard your heart before discovering something you wish you had not. Look at your partner and see what matches our list below:

Being defensive – the moment when you simply ask about something or someone, a one line question has a reply of like a one paragraph words.

Gets mad or distracted easily – even without the subject of a third party, the usual person you talk to has something unusual with what s/he does. Your partner’s mind is flying to something or someone else. Do you know the scenario of asking the same questions for so many times because he is not aware of his/her surroundings? Be curious about it and take note of his/her consistency in answering.

Changes what’s being talked about – whether this might be about a person, what s/he did on that particular day, or where his/her appointment may be, a sudden change of the subject happens. Or the worse thing is, you did not receive any response and pretend s/he did not hear or read anything from your messages.

Does not give straight answers – you are expecting a yes or a no answer and then s/he responded with an off-topic answer or a question, too. These include mostly uhm, what and why. One example is, “Did you talk to your ex-girlfriend in the office?” He says, “We did not eat lunch together.” Ladies and gentlemen, what’s with the lunch thing all about? Chances are, they actually talked, greeted, or even smiled at each other.

Does not look you in the eye – this last point is however, somehow tricky. A person who got used to lying knows and plans every move he executes. Beware!

With all those stated above, we should still give the trust that our partner deserves. Acting hysterically is not good for each other and it may probably ruin the relationship, too. Sit down with your partner and tell him/her what’s bugging there inside your mind. Lovers communicate well!

How to be a Bestfriend to your Future Partner

Proverbs 17:17 in the Bible states that “A friend loves at all times.” Having a romantic relationship does not mean friendship is not around. One of the major reasons why people bind together is because they are happy with each other. Guys and gals, the key to know more about a person is by being a friend first. Now let us enumerate what are the unconscious yet remarkable ways to get close to someone you like.

Pay attention to little things

It’s not always the big gifts and surprises that matter, but more often than usual, it’s about how you appreciate him/her. It’s like how she bats her eyelashes many times when she says sorry, or maybe how he jitters when he missed your call, or maybe the effort when s/he surprises you with a wacky keychain of your favorite color just because you’ll find it funny and cute.

Remember his/her birthday

A personal message for a special day means a lot. The person will feel that s/he is worth remembering and that s/he somehow matters to you.

Greet him/her good morning and tell good night

This simple greeting when s/he sees your message on mobile or chat can easily make him/her smile - just the right motivation for a busy day ahead!

Compromise to his/her likes

Say, you go out and head to the movies and she likes Nicholas Parks’ film. What to do? Compromise. There’s a basketball or baseball game date anyway. Give and take.

Keep your promises

Relationship is an agreement of two people. Not only agreement because it will soon include promises and vows. Remember these and do it. It is very disappointing to feel that the one who gives you the uncomfortable hard feelings is the one you love and the one who is closest to you, who knows every raise of the eyebrow and every smirk you do.  

"Lonely am I"

It was a dark and chilling night. The breeze was brisk and whistled a noticeable sigh in the air. The furtive gusts came and went like distant memories fading into the dusk. "Lonely am I" mused a successful beautiful young damsel, it is déjà vu all over again, lying, watching television screen as Leonardo Dicaprio sank into the abyss of the Atlantic Ocean. Oh! poor Kate Winslet. The beautiful young women burst out a deafening bawl as she unwrapped herself from her warming fleece blanketed cocoon. She grabbed a metallic spoon and pierced the chocolate goodness in front of her and thrust a mound of soft dark chocolate ice cream down her throat. The sadness momentarily left her body as she focused on the chocolate ice cream melting in her mouth causing euphoria of erupting taste buds. "No! no! no more ice cream" she mused realizing she had to get her sexy body ready for the upcoming events in town. She sternly pushed ice cream to the end of the table before grabbing her laptop to check her email.

She logged on from one social network to another in a seemingly abject attempt to find her quality prince charming. The page loaded and her emails were plentiful but void of any real content. Each and every click just appended to the hopelessness already settled from previous visits to those sites. "Sup sexy"..Delete, "When can we have sexzzo" Delete..."I want to marry you”…Delete “Wanna b ur man”…Delete “I’m in love with you"....Delete. She finally made the determination that the only types of men she could possibly find on these social network sites are lying needy little crybabies and game playing men with women hating issues. "It was over" she thought. "Time to put these accounts out of their misery..." Just then she noticed a site of its kind that she had never seen before. It was hopeless anyway, but “I guess I will just check it out". She logged on http://www.professionalafricansingles.com/and abruptly clicked on a profile. Her first impression was "he is moderately handsome…but let’s read further."

She read the first paragraph and was very intrigued at this man’s romantic lyrical arsenal and his knowledge of chemistry. A beacon of white light enveloped her. She excitedly called out "this is the most super intriguing profile I have ever seen." She gazed deeply into her laptop of hope and temptations and began to feel a strong emotional connection with the man on the other end. Love, adventure, eroticism, all flashed through her mind when she contemplated anything to do with this guy. "I can't believe what I am feeling right now. If this man can make me feel all warm and tingly inside just from gazing at him imagine how good I could feel if I actually met him in person." It was official, she had to contact him.

She crafted her message anxiously yet carefully for she knew deep down that men like these don't come along often. It was complete. She nervously clicked on send button and waited for her dream guy to respond. It was not to happen yet for he was offline. She wrapped herself in her warm cocoon pretending the soft fleece was burly arms of her dream man snuggling her ever so softly but with much power and affection shielding her from the lonely winds of detachment with an amiable aura of affection. The comforting tranquility enveloped her as she slowly drifted into a surreal dream world where her mind was free to imagine her wildest and most pleasurable desires coming forth right before her eyes. It was by far the most relaxing and deep sleep she ever had.

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